Debbie Gail Zane

What stories are you telling yourself? How do you know if you are creating stories?

Your emotions can be your clue because you may suddenly feel sad or unhappy or triggered.

Your stories may be caused by events in your past (and your subconscious beliefs that past patterns will repeat themselves), by negative beliefs about yourself and your worthiness, by your fears about what may happen or could happen (especially when deep down you believe good things are not possible for you).

You see the world through your own eyes. If you are feeling down about yourself, you may create stories about other people’s behavior that come from a place of your unworthiness. If you are feeling fearful, you may create stories about other people’s behavior that come from a place of your own insecurities.

When you believe in these stories you interpret everything that happens from their perspective.

Everything everyone says and does fuels energy for these stories because you believe in them so you look for confirmation in your experiences.

So if someone is doing something that has nothing to do with you, you may make it all about you…you believe that he is doing it because of you.

It’s the stories you create and believe in that cause you to feel awful. How you interpret what others do and say.

The more negative your stories are, the more negative your emotions become. It’s a cycle… it’s from this negative energy that you attract your negative experiences because the experiences you attract are related to your thoughts and beliefs and emotions. So if you want to attract happier experiences in your life you have to change your stories.

If you want to learn how to recognize when you’re creating stories and change them, I can help. My monthly group coaching program is starting soon! Reach out to me today for a free 20 minute connection call.

My relationship with time has been an interesting one.

I used to have a strained relationship with time. I felt stress related to time…such as feeling there is not enough time to do something or I felt like something needed to happen right away. I realized that in those moments, time represented a lack, an urgency, a feeling of there not being enough (time).

After becoming aware of my feelings and views surrounding time, I was in a better place to shift my thoughts and feelings.

Being present in the moment and embracing what is, rather than what could happen or should happen or might happen. None of us knows the future and we can only be happy by living in the now. Because now is where we are and now is where we can shift our thoughts and beliefs to something positive that makes us feel good.

Living in the present allows us to truly feel appreciation. If we are focused on the past or the future we can’t truly enjoy and fully appreciate anything happening now.

And when we connect with appreciation and gratitude, we can let go of the urgency related to there not being enough time…letting go of any strained relationship with time. Because we are present, we have all the time in the world while we are truly present.

The other part of my prior strained relationship with time related to valuing my own time.

And not valuing my own time was mirrored back to me by those around me not valuing my time either.

When I would make plans and not honor them, others would not honor their plans with me either.

When I would not plan ahead to do the things I really wanted to do, and leave everything up in the air, not committing to making the time to schedule what I truly wanted to do, others stopped making plans ahead of time with me too.

When I started to plan ahead and value my time and commit to the things that made me feel good, others around me began valuing my time too. Instead of assuming I would always be available at a moment’s notice, they would assume I may be busy doing things I enjoy and with a full schedule and they would plan ahead to book my time.

Live in today. Accept where you are. Appreciate what is. Make time for the things that feel good and make you happy. Spend time with the people who make you happy and be present with them. Embrace the moment.

If you need help getting started with changing your relationship to time, reach out to me.

My monthly group coaching calls start this fall and in a small group setting I will guide you on your journey to a beautiful loving relationship with yo