Debbie Gail Zane

If you are feeling disconnected from friends, family and loved ones amid the social distancing and stay at home laws, I know this can make a stressful situation even more difficult.

During times of stress people typically come together and support each other.

While you are being asked to physically distance you should not emotionally distance…from yourself or others.  We are social beings and thrive on the love and support we receive and give.

Shift your focus.  Focus on the greater good you are part of by physically distancing to protect yourself, your loved ones, your city, your country.  When you see your role as contributing to the greater good, this can help you feel more empowered and connected to others.

If you live alone, use this time to connect even more with yourself by learning more about your own truth…what makes you feel good that you can do, how can you take good care of yourself emotionally and physically.  Learning more about what makes you feel good and regularly doing those things allows you to be a stronger and healthier you.  Stress can lower your immune system but finding ways to nurture yourself and take care of yourself can strengthen your immune system.

If you live with a partner and/or children, use this time to not only strengthen the connection with yourself (prior paragraph), but take advantage of this opportunity to focus on how you can open your heart even more to your loved ones.  Let go of expectations and find something you can do to express your love to someone you love.  When you can show yourself love and show others your love, you can experience a heightened level of positive emotions.

I will be starting a group coaching program soon where we will meet weekly over video.  There will be topics that will help you to explore your desires, wishes, strengths, and connect to your own powerful core and deepen your relationships.  Would love to have you join me in these classes.  Comment below or reach out to me if you are interested.

With the current COVID-19 pandemic, maybe you are wondering how you can cope with so much uncertainty.

If you are watching the news or reading it online, it can feel very scary.

Sometimes it is the uncertainty in a situation that can cause the most fear.

Not knowing what will happen, the full affects, how long it will last.

Focusing on trying to figure out how to make something that is uncertain, certain, doesn’t work because something that is uncertain is generally not known.

The more you try to focus on making the uncertain certain, the more fear you may feel.

What can you do?

Accepting reality.  I understand it isn’t easy hearing phrases in the news like “this is the new normal”.  But fighting with reality, what actually is happening, is not going to help you and your energy will be going towards the wrong place.

Giving yourself certainty.   Is there a routine you can create for yourself daily that you can count on?  Is there a cup of coffee or tea you can look forward to every morning?  Is there a yoga or meditation practice you can do before bed?  Look at your life and create some more certainty for yourself wherever you can.  Creating more certainty, things you can count on, will help fulfill your need for certainty.

Giving certainty to others.  Are there things you can do?  You can’t control the pandemic but you can do things to help.  You can practice social distancing to do your part to minimize the spread.  You could volunteer your services to help get food and necessities to those who can’t get out.  You could provide emotional support to friends and family members.

Is there something positive that you can point to in your life such as bringing family together or connecting more (even over video or phone) with loved ones and appreciating loved ones more?

I will be starting an online coaching group next month to help those who are interested to stay connected and continue to learn and grow and receive support, so stay tuned for more information on that soon.