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Life does not always give us what we are expecting and can bring many challenges that make us question our ability to handle the pain. When Debbie’s oldest son, Alex, was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder at age seventeen after being hospitalized for nearly a month and then became addicted to drugs and alcohol, she wasn’t prepared for how to deal with what she would be up against over the next nine years and the fear, anxiety, and grief she would experience. read more

How do you identify yourself?

Have you ever made a positive change only to find that later your old way of doing things or your old way of thinking returned?

Maybe after a difficult divorce you work on loving yourself and feeling worthy of a relationship.  You feel ready to date and you get into a relationship and your fears creep in…that you are not enough and that you won’t be loved.

What is going on here?  You thought you had worked hard to create more self love!

While you may have worked hard on self love and feelings of self worth, you still identify with who you were before.  In order to become the woman whose core is rooted in self love and worthiness, you need to change your identity around this.

Your identity may have been someone who is fearful, unworthy, unloveable, powerless.  Maybe you feel like you were a victim in your past relationship.  You can’t just work on loving yourself.  You need to become the new you.  Create a new identity.  An identity of a lovable women who is worthy, brave, and empowered; not a victim.  You need to become that woman.

You see, when you create a new identity that aligns with who you want to become, change is so much easier and lasting.  You view the world from your new identity, instead of your old one.  You think, act, and feel from the new identity.

Instead of seeing yourself as a victim and as the woman in your past relationship, you begin to see yourself and identity yourself as the new empowered lovable woman.

In my upcoming Heartfelt Love Group Coaching Program, one of the things I will be helping you do is to create and step into a new empowering identity.  To become the woman you want to be and attract the magnificent heartfelt love you desire in a relationship.

I am sooo excited to be offering this program!

To learn more about my Heartfelt Love Program, visit the link below and reach out to me with any questions.  

Heartfelt Love Group Coaching Program

Posted: October 29, 2021 by asiadmin

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How positive sayings and mantras can help us

One of my favorite sayings is “life is always happening for you, not to you” by Tony Robbins.

I love it because life isn’t always smooth.  Things don’t always happen the way we want them to or expect them to.  Some moments can feel really tough, sad, difficult, challenging…. Things do not always go perfectly.

And in those moments, this saying is super helpful for me to have as a mantra that I remind myself over and over.

When I think of life as happening for me, my thoughts immediately begin to answer the following question- What is the good here in this situation?

While we may not see everything good that will come from these challenging moments and situations in the moment they are happening, we CAN begin to get our brain used to that thought.

Because whatever we ask of our brain, it will seek and find answers.

And I know the answers to the question “what is the good” will be positive and create a positive focus and clarity for me.  And because what we focus on we feel, I know I will feel better.

I also love this saying because it makes me feel like life is on my side.  Like the positive energy from the universe is surrounding me and protecting me and working for me.  I feel loved.

So how can this help you in your relationship?  If things do not always work out the way you are hoping, wanting or expecting with your date or your partner or your spouse, remind yourself that life is always happening for you and then ask what is good about this?  Even if you can’t immediately think of something good, continue to remind yourself that life is always happening for you and keep asking what is good.  You are planting the seed and your brain will begin searching for the good.

I’d love to hear from you…feel free to share how this can help you or ask for help in how you can use this in your relationship.

Posted: October 11, 2021 by asiadmin

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Be what you desire

If you want to feel more love, put yourself in a loving state.

Instead of getting angry when you feel that people are not giving you the love you desire, expect, deserve…change your state.

How can you get into a loving state?

💫 Smile

Changing your physiology in this way can help put you in a positive state.

💫 Speak loving words to yourself and others – and repeat them with emotional intensity

Saying loving words to yourself and out loud while linking emotion with them allows your brain to remember and focus on them.

💫 Think loving thoughts

What you focus on is what you feel, so focus on things that are loving.

💫 Ask empowering questions – for example, how can I share my love with others today?  How can I be more loving?

These questions will direct your brain to look for ways to be love because your brain will always find a way to answer what you ask of it.

It all starts with you.  Be what you desire.  When you desire love, be love.

Posted: September 14, 2021 by asiadmin

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