Debbie Gail Zane

Wishing everyone a very happy New Year filled with hope, love, and light!

Wherever you are in your journey in life, bring into 2023 what you want more of and leave what you don’t want behind.

You are the creator of your life! While you can’t make others change, you can change your thoughts, your mindset, your energy.

Nurture your relationships with loved ones.

Appreciate the things that are good in your life and the people who are supportive to you.

Let others know they are loved.

Prioritize what is important to you in life and create time for your relationships with loved ones and friends, your health, your growth.

You have this day. Make it the best you can 

Sending love and light,

Debbie

I recently attended Tony Robbins’ Date with Destiny event in Florida and something very powerful that spoke to me was what question I was subconsciously asking myself. I worked on this over a year ago, but realized my subconscious mind had changed my primary question I had then worked on, to something disempowering without me realizing – going from how can I be more loving today to why has this year been so difficult for me.

You see, your brain will search for answers to whatever you ask of it. And that is where your focus will be. So if you find you are focusing on things that make you feel bad, sad, angry, resentful, ask yourself what question are you subconsciously asking.

This year was tough for me after losing my oldest son in January, but asking myself why this year has been so difficult didn’t help me. It kept me stuck focusing on what wasn’t good. It even prevented me from focusing on the positive things such as my book which will be published in the spring, the parents I’ve helped, and my close relationship with my other children.

It is almost the end of 2022. I invite you to think about what you have been subconsciously asking yourself and think of a new empowering question to ask instead for the upcoming 2023 year. (Start now though!)

I understand that when you have a child with mental illness or addiction, this can be challenging because you may be used to focusing on what’s wrong and why things aren’t better. But try to replace this…for example, instead of asking why do things keep going wrong ask what is the best thing I can do right now to support myself and my child/my family.

I would love for you to share in the comments what is your old and new question.

Sending love and light,

Debbie

How are you feeling this holiday season?

Sometimes this time of year can be difficult.

If you are dealing with challenges associated with your teen or young adult having mental illness or addiction, or you’re dealing with a loss of a child or a loss of how your child was before illness, I know holidays can be stressful, overwhelming, or sad.

You are not alone and I have been there too. And this year I feel the sadness associated with the loss of my son.

No matter what you’re going through, create some new positive memories this holiday season.

When you create new positive associations, you help your mind and body connect new patterns which can over time create new ways of thinking about and feeling about this time of year.

So create a brand new tradition, take a vacation, change how you spend the holiday, or anything else different that will create a new positive experience.

Sending love and light,

Debbie