Debbie Gail Zane

With a new year and new decade approaching, this is a good time to focus on goals, visions, dreams you have for yourself.

I have found that the biggest obstacle for many people has been their beliefs.  Not believing what they desire is possible for them, not believing they are worthy of having what they desire, not believing in themselves…

When you have a vision, goal or dream and you focus on the opposite…why you can’t have this in your life or why this won’t work out for you, this is what you manifest for yourself…the opposite of what you desire.

Why?

Your vibrational alignment plays a large role.  Your vibration is made up of your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, words.  Where your energy is focused.

When you believe what you desire is not possible for you or will never happen or you are not worthy of it, you subconsciously align with this.  Your thoughts become negative and limiting, your feelings may be sad or discouraged, your words you speak may put down what you desire.  You interpret everything that happens through the lens of what you want is not possible for you.

In this way, your focus and everything you say, think and do begins to align with the opposite of what you truly desire.

You may even take action based on this…for example sabotaging a relationship that has been going well.

For 2020, you have the power to change this.  Instead of just writing down your goals and visions for what you desire (whether it is attracting the love of your life, creating a closer relationship with your partner or a child or parent, or a dream career goal), consider whether your beliefs you have deep down about yourself have been standing in the way.  Identify how you can use your resources as strengths to change your beliefs so they support your goals.  Only when you believe in yourself and you come into vibrational alignment with this, will you attract the experiences that support you true desires.

Start the new year off by investing in yourself and your growth.  Contact me for a free 30 minute clarity session where I can help you identify your goals and a plan to manifest what you desire.

Have you ever asked yourself “How can I make myself happy during this holiday season?”

Or do you depend on everyone else to make you happy.  To figure out what you would enjoy, to figure out if you have triggers this time of year that make you sad, to figure out how you want to spend your time, etc…

I have news for you.  Your happiness is your job.  Overcoming your triggers is your job.

I understand holidays can be difficult or sad.

I understand that in your past you may have some unpleasant things that have happened near the holidays.

I understand that the holidays may make you feel like you should have accomplished more this year.

But when you can embrace where you are right now.  What you have or have not accomplished.  Where you are in your relationship or in your single life.

The now.

Whatever it is.

Certain or uncertain.

You take back your power over your happiness.

When you can shift your perspective.  From your fear of the uncertainty in your relationship.  From your fear of the past (unpleasant moments) repeating themselves.  From not knowing what will happen next.

To embracing the excitement of the uncertainty.  The mystery.  The excitement of knowing deep down that something good is coming your way (even though you don’t know what it is!).

To believing in the exciting possibilities coming your way.

When you embrace the now and embrace the uncertainty, you are in a position to be open to all the good things coming your way.  Your positive mindset will attract positive experiences for you and you will be open to receiving them.  Your ability to shift your perspective from fear and the negative mindset around the uncertainty in your relationship or your life, to that of seeing the uncertainty as something positive…an exciting surprise that you can open your heart to with wonder.

Depending on your partner or your best friend to make you happy during the holidays creates the following problems-

pressure on your partner or friend to read your mind, figure out your triggers and fix and heal your past wounds, and perform the impossible task of making you happy when you yourself don’t know how to make yourself happy or believe you are worthy of happiness

pressure on your relationship by causing the focus to be on your past…wounds, hurts…and your anxiety over the future…what is going to happen next, what does this mean, where is this going…rather than just allowing things to unfold and being present and appreciating what is happening now

So this holiday season try something different.  Ask yourself “How can I make myself happy during this holiday season?” and let this be your focus, your guiding light.  Return to this question of focus often instead of focusing on what others are doing or not doing.