When we have an ill child, it’s natural as a parent to want to take away their pain.
Whether they are suffering from mental illness, addiction, or any other health issue.
After all, they are near and dear to our heart.
You may even be one to feel their pain.
I hear you, as this has happened to me too, many times.
And when it isn’t possible to end their suffering, it is also natural to focus on that – the pain and suffering we don’t want for them.
I want to tell you, that doesn’t help.
I have learned from Tony Robbins and experienced the truth of – what you focus on you feel.
So what happens when you focus on this pain and suffering? You feel pain and suffering. You feel sad, bad, etc. in this state, it’s so hard to be of help to anyone- your loved one or yourself.
Instead, you could focus on ways you could help them such as being a loving support, asking if there is anything you could do to help, being an advocate for them, bringing in compassion, understanding their anger and agitation is not about you.
This shift in focus allows you to focus on something you CAN do rather than something you can’t.
Sending love to all those who are experiencing the pain of having an ill loved one. Connect with your heart and through your heart connect with theirs.
Sending love and light,
Debbie
