Debbie Gail Zane

When you hear the word boundaries, do you think of something harsh?

Do you feel if you set boundaries with your teen or adult child that you will have to hold back your loving emotions in order to stick to your boundaries?

If you answered yes to these questions, let’s work on changing your views around boundaries.

Boundaries can be set to protect your well being which will in turn allow you to feel better emotionally thus be able to be in a better position to support your child.

When used properly they can actually allow you to have a loving relationship with your child; because you trust yourself to stick to the boundaries you set, you feel safe spending time with them, you can be more present and open.

They are not set to punish or with any punitive intention.

Rather they are set so you can enjoy your child without getting caught up in becoming a victim of circumstances.

Boundaries really are tools that will help you to experience a loving relationship with your child because they help you feel safe emotionally so allow you to continue to connect with your love for them, and your child to still feel your love.

Walls are energy blocks that prevent your son or daughter from feeling your love. Even though you love them, they don’t feel it. When this happens, the relationship can break down.

When you feel secure with your boundaries, things can begin to feel easier.

My book, Finding Peace and Purpose Amidst the Tears by Debbie Gail Zane, is now available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble online. Through sharing my story of the love and loss of my son through his mental illness and addiction and how I turned my pain into my purpose, I hope to help parents on a similar journey feel they are not alone, give them hope for peace and healing, and provide the inspiration to go on.

Sending love and light,

Debbie

With much gratitude and love, I am excited to bring my book to life today!

Life does not always give us what we are expecting and can bring many challenges that make us question our ability to handle the pain. When my oldest son was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder at age seventeen after being hospitalized for nearly a month and then became addicted to drugs and alcohol, I wasn’t prepared for how to deal with what I would be up against over the next nine years and the fear and anxiety I would experience. At times, my life felt consumed by his hospital visits, treatment center stays, drug use, and battles over seeing a therapist and psychiatrist and taking his medications. I faced terrifying realities when I almost lost him several times in his late teens and early twenties. After he passed away at the age of twenty-six, I felt pain like I had never experienced before, and I had no idea how I would find a way to go on. In that moment, my life had forever changed.

Through sharing my story of the love and loss of my son through his mental illness and addiction and how I turned my pain into my purpose, I hope to help parents on a similar journey feel they are not alone, give them hope for peace and healing, and provide the inspiration to go on.

My desire is to make a difference in this world. So many families are affected by mental illness and addiction.

Now Available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble online! Finding Peace and Purpose Amidst the Tears by Debbie Gail Zane. See the comments for links to purchase!

Sending love and light,

Debbie

If you want to take a step towards a more loving relationship with your teen/adult child, begin with thinking of all the things you love about them.

And if right now you are having some difficulties with conflict, communication, or whatever it is, I do understand this could be difficult at first.

But think back to when they first came into the world… how you felt.

Think about their presence in your life over the last fifteen, twenty, or more years as a gift.

Think of everything that you love about them since they have been in your life, even if you are at odds now.

I know it is hard when your child has mental illness or addiction, as right now nothing in your relationship with them may seem positive.

But if you want a more loving relationship with them, you can begin the process by sending love to them even from afar. And connecting with their soul, who they truly are deep down.

In my book, Finding Peace and Purpose Amidst the Tears: My Journey of the Love and Loss of My Son through His Mental Illness and Addiction, you will see that you are not alone in your struggles with your child, even if your life feels consumed with their hospital visits, treatment center stays, drug use, and battles about treatment.

Join me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100021353857859 on Tuesday, May 9 for my book launch where I will be doing a series of lives talking about my book, answering questions, and speaking with special guests.

Sending love and light,

Debbie